Traits

This is from this: https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-biggest-signs-that-someone-has-narcissistic-personality-disorder

And I can't believe how well it describes what I went through:

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The biggest one I struggle with is lack of empathy. It so crazy how they have none, zilch, zero but they want your empathy about everything and anything.

Two. Projection. Once you catch on and know what's really going on, it's funny how they really do project onto you what their doing. If you want to know what your Narc is up to, just listen to what he accuses you of doing.

Three. They take no accountability for anything. Absolutely nothing is their fault. It is everybody else's fault.

Four. Everything and I mean everything has to be done their way. Whatever it is you're doing, as simple as moving a couch, you will pick it up, hold it and carry it their way. There is no multiple ways to do things, just one and that theirs.

Five, grandeos ideas that are very unrealistic. My husband has been telling me for a year now he is retiring in five years as a millionaire. He doesn't have a job and it's hard to work when you're soliciting for sex online and screwing people all hours of the day.

Six. Me me me. Everything is about them. They have to be the center of attention and will do whatever it takes for you to revolve everything around them. They are good at manipulating this to happen. I neglected my children for two years and didn't see it in the moment.

Seven. They will tell you how much they hate drama and are very simple people. I would never think it's possible one person could create so much drama had I not experienced. More drama then 13 years of school. They can make drama out of dirt and they will.

Eight. If in the beginning of the relationship this person seems way too perfect…beyond that honeymoon phase adrenaline high you get when you are first with someone, Id take a step back. Listen to the things they tell you. Don't like drama, simple, if they put you on a pedestal that's over the top. Stop them at hello and say goodbye.

Nine. They have no respect for others space, time, property and/or no respect just being polite. Using manners. No need for them. They simply don't care.

Ten. Mark my words. You will become a slave to them. They will control everything you do, say, hangout with, often cutting you off from outside life. You eventually become a robot and disconnect from the world.

Last one. They never ever ever follow through on anything they say but they sure will convince you they will "this time" so you keep believing in them.

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