On Foregiveness

Look at the 3rd idea of the day from the Aspen Institute.

"....forgiveness exists separately from reconciliation, and also from accountability — which is why forgiving someone doesn't require an apology or even their participation. "Reconciliation is a negotiation strategy between two or more people trying to make their way back together to mutual trust," explains Enright, whereas forgiveness is a one-way endeavor. Put another way: Forgiveness might be a step on the path to reconciliation, but you don't have to traverse the full route if you'd prefer not to."

"When you forgive someone, it doesn't mean you have to have any kind of ongoing relationship with them," Davis says. "It's an internal shift, where you're no longer carrying the wound in the same way."

Think of forgiveness as something you're doing primarily for yourself.

Yes. Exactly.